Comments on: Married with…Friends of the Opposite Sex? http://treerootandtwig.com/2009/11/11/married-with-friends-of-the-opposite-sex/ A Personal Blog About Parenting and Products Sun, 12 Feb 2012 03:39:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jen http://treerootandtwig.com/2009/11/11/married-with-friends-of-the-opposite-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-7578 Jen Fri, 13 Nov 2009 20:43:02 +0000 http://treerootandtwig.com/?p=3127#comment-7578 I also read the book and enjoyed it and then Paul read it so we could discuss it together. Maybe it's because we met in the singles ward and were friends for a long time before we started dating, and maybe it's because we were highly accomplished flirts, but we always said it would be fine to have friends of the opposite sex...and we both still do and are completely open and honest with each other and don't have any problems with it. We both found the book very interesting, but found it more helpful in terms of understanding dealing with grief as discussed in the second half of the book. I'd love to hear your take on the book once you finish. I also read the book and enjoyed it and then Paul read it so we could discuss it together. Maybe it’s because we met in the singles ward and were friends for a long time before we started dating, and maybe it’s because we were highly accomplished flirts, but we always said it would be fine to have friends of the opposite sex…and we both still do and are completely open and honest with each other and don’t have any problems with it. We both found the book very interesting, but found it more helpful in terms of understanding dealing with grief as discussed in the second half of the book. I’d love to hear your take on the book once you finish.

]]> By: LCM http://treerootandtwig.com/2009/11/11/married-with-friends-of-the-opposite-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-7557 LCM Thu, 12 Nov 2009 18:48:47 +0000 http://treerootandtwig.com/?p=3127#comment-7557 I read this book and I enjoyed it. But I was the same as you. I was seriously uncomfortable about how blase she was, plus she didn't really get how spouses might be uncomfortable about it. When I worked the ladies I worked with thought I was really odd because I didn't want to lunch with a male station rep alone. I just didn't even want to start down that path. I read this book and I enjoyed it. But I was the same as you. I was seriously uncomfortable about how blase she was, plus she didn’t really get how spouses might be uncomfortable about it. When I worked the ladies I worked with thought I was really odd because I didn’t want to lunch with a male station rep alone. I just didn’t even want to start down that path.

]]> By: Kat @ For the Love of Chaos http://treerootandtwig.com/2009/11/11/married-with-friends-of-the-opposite-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-7548 Kat @ For the Love of Chaos Thu, 12 Nov 2009 13:33:05 +0000 http://treerootandtwig.com/?p=3127#comment-7548 I have to agree. I hate to say anything is "always" a bad idea, but in my opinion, that is ALWAYS a bad idea. Any woman thinking that *any* man wouldn't be interested in her is naive to start with - so what if you're a frumpy housewife. Your hubby is still interested so trust that there is another man who would be also - it's not worth the potential danger to develop ANY type of emotional ties to another man... that's just how I feel about it. It is a breeding ground for confusion (at best) and could foster an environment rich in possibilities that aren't intended. I've seen it happen and it ain't pretty. {Yes, ain't.} LOL I hope you finish the book and find that the characters realized this without any detriment coming to their respective marriages. I know it's just a book, but ... still. I have to agree. I hate to say anything is “always” a bad idea, but in my opinion, that is ALWAYS a bad idea. Any woman thinking that *any* man wouldn’t be interested in her is naive to start with – so what if you’re a frumpy housewife. Your hubby is still interested so trust that there is another man who would be also – it’s not worth the potential danger to develop ANY type of emotional ties to another man… that’s just how I feel about it. It is a breeding ground for confusion (at best) and could foster an environment rich in possibilities that aren’t intended. I’ve seen it happen and it ain’t pretty. {Yes, ain’t.} LOL

I hope you finish the book and find that the characters realized this without any detriment coming to their respective marriages. I know it’s just a book, but … still.

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